Not to be all emo and stuff, but...

I'm beginning to think that I really am destined to be single. Even when I find someone who I can imagine myself with for a long time, there's some kind of obstacle that gets in the way...even when the feeling is mutual.

What the hell, universe? F--- you.

Awe, I'm sorry to hear that Doug. I wish you could find someone and be happy even just for a while.

I hope you're not destined to be single though, just cuz then I don't stand a chance, not against destiny.

I just don't understand how people do it, ya know? I mean, maybe they're settling, or maybe my standards are too high...but it's hard for me to believe that, because I hardly even have opportunities to turn people down based on standards, LOL.

If I really think about it, I'd say I have maybe one actual, available prospect, and I'm not interested in having a relationship with him at all after hanging out with him enough. I think he's a bit irritating and I'm just not physically attracted to him (which, say what you will proud members of society, but physical attraction is insanely important). Friend? Sure. Relationship? No.

Other situations include:
- someone I'm insanely attracted to and believe the feeling is mutual, but doesn't want to get involved.
- someone who'd probably be a really good relationship, but lives too far away.
- someone who could probably entertain me for awhile, but not for a long-term relationship situation (that sounds awful, but it's true).
- a bunch of straight girls who'd be awesome if I liked girls.
- a bunch of straight guys who'd be awesome if I were a girl.
- a few guys who don't want anything but a good bang and dash (no thanks).

Even this one guy who I was simply talking to because he was cool (no other intentions were involved) fell through as merely a friend, because he was like, "Well, I'm only looking for sex," and when I said, "Well, that's okay, I wasn't looking to take you away from your partner," he was like, "Well, chatting isn't terrible and all...but I'm looking for sex," so I was like, "Oh...okay, point taken. No more friendly talk, because you were rad."

Something is definitely working against me here.

Don't set yourself up mentally that you will fail or that it will just not work.

You need to
1. leave your self open to being vulnerable even if it means being rejected. ((at least you gave it a shot))

2. You may not see a full out relationship with someone at first, but trying is half the battle. Playing out senarios in your head until you actually try with someone is a safe way of gaurding your heart from potential hurt, Rejection

3. get yourself out of a routine, go somewhere new and continue to go so that you open your circle of friends to a wider possibility.

4. Let your friends know that you are wanting to get into a relationship, often they may know of someone who is single and looking as well. It might be a way to set yourself up on a date, that from the start both parties know they want to try to make it something.

5. Negative self talk leads to not being confident and confidence is something that is needed anytime you are going to get out there and search.

Hopefully some advice points in here will help you jump start out. networking In real life is so important to obtaining someone you feel compatible with. The world is out there, jump into it.

Don't get involved with someone if you're not attracted to them. I've done that, it isn't good. You just end up in a relationship with someone that you like or even love a lot lot lot because you and he connect and it's a really great amazing relationship with someone that you just never want to have sex with and wish you could just downgrade to friend so you could have them in your life forever and still bang other people but that isn't possible and so of course you can stay in that relationship and continue to not be attracted to them and let things run their course, because they will run their course, or you can dump them and feel like an asshole about it. Either way you lose, so, yeah, bad idea. Unless you can see a way out of that, that I can't. And if you can, please tell me what it is.

Thian, I really appreciate the advice, but the whole reason I'm thinking I'm destined to be single is that I've tried and not tried a whole lot. I've actively sought, I've lived and let happen, I've put myself out there, I've gone about my regular day, I've opened up my circle, I've attempted to start different ways, emotionally, physically, intellectually, I've tried in person (that's the biggest fail), I've tried online, I've tried through friends (but this doesn't really work among my friends...won't really explain), and I've tried through organizations.

I mean, I know that there's plenty of time to do all of this all over again, but that doesn't really make me feel any better about it now, LOL.

Well, as you said ((in not so many words)) you are still young. I am sure at age 60 this will become a bigger problem if you haven't snagged someone by then. Some people really are comfortable being alone more so, than having one person as well.

If something happens, it happens. If someone comes along and it works out, great. Don't stress about it though. Just my perspective.

I wouldn't say I'm stressing so much as I'm just kinda bummed. Like, I get over it pretty easily at any given time, but it's kinda just a stall. As if I were to take novocaine for a bit to fool myself I'm not like, freaking out, because I understand that it's not a necessity in life...it just makes things a bit more enjoyable

Very true! I could use a man too, but meh, when it happens, it happens.

WHERE'S HOLCY WHEN WE NEED HIM?

Fo realz yo

Doug, marry me if we're both still single in twenty years. Please?

But I've officially decided Canadian guys fail. I'm just always single, lol. The only guys who are interested in me are creepers. They'll ask me out, I'll go, but it's just... awkward. Like, I had a date with this guy I knew from bible study, who my roommate said I had a lot in common with. But then he started sending me text messages being like "YOU'RE SEXY!" then slapped my ass when I walked by. It was just uncomfortable and I declined any further dates, lmao. And then, I had a date with a guy who made me walk 45 minutes to his house, just to watch tv and be creepy, then told me the bus route to get home.

I'm convinced that my true love is in England. My mom only went on a second date with my dad because of his England accent, and two of her sisters married guys from England too. Ever since I was little, I've had this idea in my head that I'm destined to marry a guy from England, ahaha

Fingers crossed. I'm sick of being single >.>

Sorry, already made that promise to another girl.

Everyone has Every time I ask someone, I'm told they have plans to wed another girl. *sigh*

Sorry, she's offered a one-time use of her womb (which is all I asked for) and a lifetime of scrap-booking for the kid, whom she wants nothing else to do with (which is also fantastic, because that little shit is mine).

Ahhh, okay. That's a tough deal to pass up. I understand.

Jess wrote:

Everyone has Every time I ask someone, I'm told they have plans to wed another girl. *sigh*

Out of context this is the saddest thing I've ever heard.

What about you, Mo? Will you marry me in 20 years if we're both single?

I would, but it wouldn't be fair to everyone else.

Maybe in 20 years, beastiality will finally be legal... That will solve all my problems.

If there's a God.

Which animal would you choose Jess? Lots of options. Blue whales are well endowed, but I have read that bonobos are pretty frisky in bed.

http://news.softpedia.com/news/The-Largest-Penis-in-the-World-43756.shtml
Pictures may be disturbing

ahahahaha, that's so frightening!!

I've always had a thing for giraffes though, so I might chose to take this route...

I'm glad this turned into a thread about Jess banging giraffes